Recently, I had a conversation with my Mom in which I was made aware, once more, of how negative I can be. I am the glass half empty type of girl. So I was challenged to change my perspective.
Just the other night I was running to the grocery store for a late night snack. As I walked through I saw couples together shopping, and in that moment I was tempted to be envious, but then I thought to myself how can I make this positive, and it hit me. I can run to the store whenever I want, and buy those Pillsbury Cinnamon Rolls if I want to, and I don’t have anyone next to me to judge my lack of self-control when it comes to my sweet tooth. So I was sitting down cuddled up to my dog and I started thinking of 5 perks of being single.
- Who Cares
The first one is the Who Cares factor. When you are single and eating late night cinnamon rolls… who cares. When you feel like taking a nap instead of cleaning who cares. When you want to order pizza instead of cooking who cares. Buying that extra shirt for yourself who cares. When you are single you don’t have to worry about the time, opinion or money of anyone else. Cause it is just you and what ever you choose to prioritize.
2. Impressing Others
The who cares factor is a perfect segue to the second factor which is Impressing Others. With lack of caring you being to worry less what others think about you. You spend less time focusing on your special quirks as negative, and learn to embrace them. You are weird… just accept it. And one day someone who is equally as strange will appreciate it. That awkward interaction is the last thing on your mind now. You spend less time worrying over your appearance because you are not worried about what someone will think because again… who cares. It is a rather freeing factor.
3. You Time
And now, because you are spending way less time worrying about insignificant things, you can do whatever you want. Your time is your time. If you want to go somewhere you don’t need to check in. Have you been feeling the urge to hike? Take your dog and go. You can stand on top of the mountain by yourself and revel at where your life has been, who you see yourself becoming and the awesome creation that lies in front of you. As a single person you don’t have to schedule YOU time. You don’t have to hire a babysitter to achieve it. It is just there. And after those really long draining days, you don’t have to deal with anyone else. So sometimes coming home to your own place alone really isn’t so bad.
4. Free-falling Future
Since you are only worried about you right now your future is entirely up to you. You don’t have to make plans around someone else’s focus or goals. A job opens up in Europe? Go for it. You want to further your education in another city? When you don’t know what you are going to do with your future and don’t even have a next weeks plan, it is ok. You don’t have to figure out where you and your spouse are going to live, or making sure their plan lines up with yours. There really isn’t too many factors limiting the plans you can make with your life. So just do it (as Nike would say).
The excitement factor. Your plans ARE limitless. Your future is unknown. This is actually awesome. You have a lot to look forward too. You still have meeting tons of people in front of you. You still have more bad dates that turn in to hilarious stories later to go on. You also have meeting just the right person somewhere ahead in life. You still have so many unknowns to experience, and all the while you are learning more about you. You are becoming something pretty spectacular. So embrace and welcome this time, because it won’t always be.
To my single friends here’s to you!
“Life is best served with a hot cup of coffee and a whole lot of grace!”