What I Learned as a Youth Leader

What I Learned as a Youth Leader

One of the biggest lessons I learned as a youth leader was how selfish I truly am. I hear it said you learn how selfish you are when you get married and more so when you have kids, but I learned a small sum of that as a youth group leader. I learned I so [...]

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Cleaning Out – Preparing for Marriage

Cleaning Out – Preparing for Marriage

If you are anything like me you can relate to a deep love for clothing. With that same love I hold on to what I no longer need. I look at my closet and can make an excuse to wear an item of clothing I haven't worn in years... cause I just might need it [...]

Dear Church, Please Stop Saying ‘You’re Not Ready Yet’

Dear Church, Please Stop Saying ‘You’re Not Ready Yet’

I would like to ask you to stop telling singles that they are not 'ready yet'. I am sure it gets said because it is the Christian-ese answer, but I don't think we understand the implications of that phrase. Telling someone they are not ready yet means that they are not good enough yet for marriage which would imply you have to earn marriage. I do not believe God's heart towards us is to earn marriage, but rather a gift.